Shared experiences
First hand experiences written by parents and relatives about the death of their baby
Shared experiencesFirst hand experiences written by parents and relatives about the death of their baby |
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When your baby has died it can seem as if no-one else in the world knows or understands what you are going through, or how you feel inside.“Nothing can correctly explain the feelings of utter disbelief, failure, helplessness and great sorrow.” Bereaved mother You may find that even if friends and family are sympathetic and are doing their best, there is still a barrier between you and them. This feeling of isolation can continue as time goes on and everyone else goes back to life as normal, while your life has changed forever. “None of my friends have even mentioned their birthday. I don’t think they realise how much it hurts.” Bereaved mother of twins. It can help enormously to know that there are others who have been through something similar and that you are not alone in your experience. Many bereaved parents say how they have felt comforted and strengthened when they have read about the experiences of other people whose baby has also died. It can be a relief to know that someone else has felt the same strong emotions, done the same things that made you fear were crazy. Although the stories may be different, the feelings of grief, anger, sadness, loneliness, pain and in time, sometimes peace are all too often the same. “So many agonising feelings – the real longing for her just to be here, to be able to hold and cuddle her. So many special days, Christmas and birthdays – when we remember who is missing and what might have been.” Bereaved mother. We hope that through these shared experiences you will be able to connect with other people who have had a baby that has died, and feel less alone. In time you may feel that you want to add your own story or poem to this section. If you would like to do this, please contact the website editor at SANDS. Poems and Stories Links to parents’
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