On this page you will find a list of all Sands publications and resources designed for bereaved families and the professionals caring for them.
To order any of the titles
1. order and pay online via our fundraising website, (click on Sands Shop)
or
2. download an order form (pdf) which you can post to the office
(If you are ordering from outside the UK, please contact the head office first to ask us about postage rates to your country.)
Sands also has a range of merchandise featuring our logo, including T-shirts, caps, balloons, posters, pens and badges, charity bracelets, trolley coins etc.
Leaflets and booklets
Saying Goodbye to Your Baby
(Sands1999)
A booklet written to help parents and others to understand their feelings of grief after the death of a baby.
ISBN 1 869903 00 5, 26 pages, Price £1.50
NEW Support For You When Your Baby Dies
outlines the support offered by Sands to bereaved parents and those caring for them.
About the other Children
explains how children may perceive the loss of their baby sibling and gives advice about what you can do to help them cope.
Mainly for Fathers
gives information and support for recently bereaved fathers.
For Family and Friends - How you can help
explains common reactions of bereaved parents and how you can help them in their time of grief.
The Loss of your Grandchild
for bereaved grandparents.
Sexual Problems Following a Stillbirth
a Sands fact sheet
The Next Pregnancy: Guidance for Parents
covers topics such as how soon to try again after your loss, being pregnant and when your new baby arrives.
Sands national Newsletter
We produce 3 newsletters a year, containing useful information, news about Sands activities, and personal accounts of experiences of stillbirth and neonatal death from parents, family members and health professionals.
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Books about the experience of baby loss
When a Baby Dies, The experience of late miscarriage, stillbirth
and neonatal death
Nancy Kohner and Alix Henley, 2nd edn. Routledge 2001
This sensitive informative book offers a lifeline to bereaved parents
and their families and is essential reading for every professional who
comes into contact with parents after the death of their baby. Using letters
from and interviews with many bereaved parents the authors have written
a book, which offers understanding of what it means for a baby to die
and the grief that follows. When A Baby Dies also contains valuable information
and causes of death, hospital practices, sources of support, and the care
parents need in future pregnancies.
ISBN 0-415-25276-8, 256 pages, Price £9.99.
Living with Leo
Mario Di Clemente. Bosun Publishing on behalf of Sands, 2004
Leonardo Di Clemente was born on 27 th January 2003 and died the following day. Leo's father, Mario, has written movingly of his experience of prospective fatherhood and the distress of bereavement. Twelve letters written over a year, from a father to his son, tell the story of Mario's life with Leo: of the excitement and anticipation, the grief and loss, and perhaps most important of all, the emergence of strength and hope.
The letters are intensely personal and yet universal too, and will strike a chord with any parent who has had to endure the devastating death of a baby.
For more information see the 'Living with Leo' website.
ISBN 0-9546932-0-5, 186 pages : Price £9.99
A Star for Bobby
Helen Keenor. Bosun Publishing on behalf of Sands, 2005
This is a book which talks directly to young children, using language and illustrations they can understand, about the death of a brother or sister, explaining why sometimes these things happen and how this may be making them feel.
When Helen Keenor's baby son, Toby died shortly after birth last year she wanted to explain to her 2 year old daughter Harriet what had happened in a way a little girl could understand. Having searched for a book that would help, Helen, a primary school teacher, decided to write and illustrate a book herself.
A Star for Bobby tells the story of a family of birds. One of the newly hatched birds Bobby, is sick and soon dies. Bobby is buried and his brother and sister, on going to bed that evening, look up at the night sky to see a star shining especially brightly, Bobby's star.
The story lets children know that it isn't their fault their brother or sister has died and that it is all right to feel sad and to say that they are.
ISBN 0954693221, 32 pages: Price £4.99
Fathers Feel Too
Andrew Don, Bosun Publishing on behalf of Sands, 2005
When Andrew Don's baby Lara Jean died at five months in the womb, the hospital consultant sent his wife a condolence letter which didn't mention him. Andrew felt like a non-person.
He writes, "Lara Jean was my baby, too. I'd read the books and seen the movie. I was prepared for fully-fledged fatherhood and had signed up for the full deal." But Andrew felt his intense grief was not taken seriously, that he was expected to take it in his stride.
Seven years on he turned his experience into a book telling the stories of 10 men who have lost babies either during pregnancy, at birth or during the first year of life.
"I wanted to do something specially for men, many of whom still think society requires them to have a stiff upper lip and hold it all together for their partner. Women are encouraged to 'let it all out'. Men, less so. I wanted to tell them, it's okay to cry, it's fine to head-butt the wall, you're allowed to give yourself space to crumble – yes, men are allowed to feel, too."
In this book Andrew's story and the stories of nine other fathers, together describe the raw grief of bereavement, and also how several years on, they have found a way to live again.
ISBN 095469323X, 100 pages: price £9.99
 A Candle for Lisa
Debbie Ruskin, Pennine Pens, 2002
Lisa Ruskin was born prematurely with serious heart defects. As her mother Debbie recovered consciousness from the emergency Caesarean Section, she was pressed to give consent to switch off Lisa's life support machine. She later learned that Lisa's organs had been retained by the hospital. In this sad but ultimately up-lifting book, Debbie tells of her fight to discover the truth about what happened to herself and Lisa, and of her own struggle to overcome her grief. By sharing her moving story with other parents and with health professionals, Debbie hopes some good will come from Lisa's tragic death.
ISBN 1-873378-78-5, 72 pages: Price £4.95
Toby's Tiny Tot
Jaqueline Savage, Bosun Publishing on behalf of Sands, 2006
Taken from the series, “Toby’s Triumphs”, a collection of charming takes about a young boy named Toby. Throughout the series, Toby’s journey is full of wondrous discoveries, each new experience offering a lesson in life from the imaginative boy. Toby’s Tiny Tot is the sensitive story of Toby’s longing for a sibling. Through his eyes, we follow the painful path of loss and its consuming sadness. Beautifully illustrated a useful resource for families to help children understand about the death of their baby brother or sister.
Price £5.99
NEW Thomas - a lifetime denied
Shelley Wilkinson, Bosun Publishing on behalf of Sands, 2006
Shelley wanted to tell the world about her wonderful son: how his death left her heartbroken but also how it has changed the course of her life. This book describes a mother's emotional journey to reconcile her anger and sadness at her baby's death, moving from denial, devastation, guilt, anger and to finally hope. Shelley says, “As I walked away from the maternity department on the 22nd July 2000, I left behind my dreams and hope for the future, my faith in the medical professionals and most importantly my beautiful, much wanted and much loved baby boy.”
Price £9.99
NEW Soulmates: blessed little angels
Cheryl Peachey Bosun Publishing on behalf of Sands, 2006
“January 5th 2001 was a day that will be stamped in my mindforever. For it was the day in which my dreams shattered into a million pieces at the devastating and unnecessary loss of my beautiful angel son Keiryn.” Cheryl Peachey's deeply emotional rollercoaster journey after Kieryn's death took her to realms she never knew existed. It is only now, years later, that Cheryl is able to tell her story. Whilst never really being able to forgive those involved for the mistakes made during and after her pregnancy she is, with time, learning to rebuild her life.
Price £9.99
NEW I Hate This (a play without the baby)
David Hanson, Bosun Publishing on behalf of Sands, 2007
David's one man play takes you from the moment his son was born and through the year that follows.... but not in that order.This is an honest, compelling and even humorous trip through one father's experience of stillbirth.
The script of this extraordinary play, which is touring the UK in June 2007, is now available. To read about the play, please click here.
Price £7.00. This book is not currently on our order form, so to order a copy please contact our head office direct.
Miscarriage: Women's Experiences and Needs
Christine Moulder, 2nd edn. Routledge 2001
This sympathetic and helpful book explores the many different ways in which women physically experience miscarriage and emotionally react to it. Every aspect of miscarriage is covered, including difficult issues that are often avoided. The book also prvides good practical guidelines for professionals, based on what women themselves say they find helpful.
ISBN 0-415-25489-2, 304 pages: Price £9.99
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Resources for parents and families
Sands CD
The CD features two songs written and performed by two bereaved parents,
Karen and Andrew Scott. The songs were recorded live at a memorial service
at the Millennium Chapel in the National Memorial Arboretum at Alrewas.
Sands Baby Card
This high quality card features the beautiful baby sculpture created
by John Roberts for the Sands Garden. The inside has been left blank for
your own message. The card can be used by individuals and groups, for
example for condolence, or for messages on an anniversary.
Sands Memory Card
The memory card was created to help parents think about what they might like to do soon after their baby has died, to create tangible memories of their baby.
With space for foot and handprints, photos and personal memories, the card can be a precious keepsake in future years.
Sands teardrop stickers
For use on medical files, the brightly coloured teardrop stickers carry the Sands teardrop logo.
The stickers are designed to alert medical professionals to the fact
that subject of the file has previously suffered a pregnancy loss. The
health worker can then avoid insensitive questions and treatment.
For fundraising and other merchandise click here..
Publications about caring for parents when a baby dies
NEW
Guidelines for Professionals: Pregnancy Loss and the Death of a Baby
3rd edition
Judith Schott, Alix Henley and Nancy Kohner. Bosun Publishing on behalf of Sands, 2007.
The Guidelines set out standards for good care when a baby dies, at any stage of gestation or during or after birth. They are fully referenced to the latest research and offer practical guidance and information: not just WHAT to do but HOW. The book includes principles of good practice, detailed descriptions of and guidelines for good care, and essential factual information. Endorsed by all the relevant professional bodies, the Guidelines are an essential resource for anyone caring for famlies when a baby dies.
ISBN 978-0-9554243-2-8, 272 pages, Price £16.99. Understanding Pregnancy Loss: Perspectives and Issues in Care
Christine Moulder. Macmillan 1998.
Primarily aimed at healthcare professionals, this book is based on original research. It provides an insight into women’s experiences of their care following a stillbirth, miscarriage or termination of pregnancy as well as the views and experiences of the significant professionals who provided that care.
ISBN 0 333 72145 4, size 234x156mm, 280 pages, Price £18.99.
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