Colleagues

Many bereaved parents are nervous about how people at work will react to them. Some people may say insensitive things because they are shocked, or just because they don’t know what to say. Others may be very supportive and  willing to listen if you want to talk.

“The thought of going back to work was actually worse than being there. It did feel strange at first but everyone was so warm and welcoming and this really helped me to settle back in.” Mother

If people are insensitive or don’t understand, try not to judge them too harshly. They may simply not know how to react. There may be someone at work who is expecting a baby. Try not to feel bad if their pregnancy upsets you. This is  perfectly normal. Your loss may be distressing for them too.

There may also be someone who has been on maternity or paternity leave and returns to show off their new baby. Just as it is natural for you to have mixed feelings about other people’s new babies, it is natural for them to want to share their excitement. All these situations can be really difficult. Try to be gentle with yourself and take  time out if you need to.