Being back at work

The early days back at work can be overwhelming. It can be daunting to leave the security of your home. You may also be worried about how you will manage your job. If you can, it may help to start with easier, more routine tasks.

Be gentle with yourself. Learn to recognise your limits. Try not to put pressure on yourself to do more than you can. Take time out if you need a break. You may find that the routine of work is helpful, and that it is a relief to have some structure to the days and weeks. However, your life and your priorities may also have changed a lot since your baby died. Things that once seemed ssential may not seem so important now. You may find it hard to feel motivated at work.

Grief is tiring; you may be surprised at how exhausted you feel. You may find it hard to concentrate and remember things. You may find that you are very sensitive to the things that people say or don't say, or that you lack confidence  about making decisions. Some parents become frustrated with themselves and
anxious that they can no longer cope with work, but all these reactions are the
normal effects of grief and should pass with time.