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You may find it reassuring to read some of the many personal stories here, written by Mums and Dads, relatives and friends about the death of their baby.
Though every experience of a baby's death is unique, you may recognise something in them that connects to your own experience.
When your baby has died it can seem as if no-one else in the world knows or understands what you are going through, or how you feel inside.
"Nothing can correctly explain the feelings of utter disbelief, failure, helplessness and great sorrow." Bereaved mother
You may find that even if friends and family are sympathetic and are doing their best, there can still be a barrier between you and them. This feeling of isolation can continue as time goes on and everyone else goes back to life as normal, while your life has changed forever.
"None of my friends have even mentioned their birthday. I don't think they realise how much it hurts." Bereaved mother of twins.
It can help enormously to know that there are others who have been through something similar and that you are not alone. Many Mums and Dads say how they have felt comforted and strengthened when they have read about the experiences of others.
We hope that through these personal experiences you will be able to connect with those whose own precious baby has died, and feel less alone.
Adding your own personal experience
If you would like to add your own experience or poem to the website or for it to be included in our newsletter "Footprints", please do get in touch with us at personal.experiences(at)uk-sands.org.
Links to parents' websites
Many parents have set up their own websites dedicated to their babies. We have included links to some of these. Visit parents' websites